She said, ‘If you don’t ask, you don’t get.’

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Overcoming Fear: The Power of Asking

There’s a certain fear that resides deep within us, preventing us from speaking up and asking for what we want. I vividly remember the sickening sensation in my stomach whenever my Mum urged me to push past that fear. ‘Just go and ask’ she would say, ‘what is the worst that can happen’ She would often liken it to knocking on doors, but little did I know back then just how valuable that lesson would be.

As I journeyed through life, I came to realize the profound truth behind her words. Time and time again, I witnessed the transformative impact that a simple act of asking could have on the opportunities that presented themselves along my path. Of course, there are always people there to say no to you, dismiss your ideas and even try to discourage you, I have learned the think of it as a game. We can win some but to do nothing will always mean you have lost.

Recently, I found myself utilizing an online platform to raise funds for underprivileged children in an Indian school. It required me to ask for donations, a task that invariably stirred up that familiar feeling of unease. Yet, in those moments, my mother’s wisdom resurfaced within me: “If you don’t ask, you don’t get.”

I reminded myself that by withholding my request, I would be depriving those children of a future filled with possibilities. The responsibility weighed heavily on me, and I couldn’t bear the thought of failing them. Yes, it meant subjecting myself to pressure, but the alternative—doing nothing—would leave me with an even greater sense of dissatisfaction.

However, something incredible happens when you summon the courage to ask. The sick feeling gradually dissipates as someone extends their support. And it’s true, as they say, that giving brings joy. This realization propels me forward, reinforcing my determination to continue asking.

Of course, not everyone will choose to donate, and I’ve learned to accept that fact. And why shouldn’t I? People have their preferred charities, interests, and financial constraints. I hold no offense towards those who decline. I simply needed to ask, for you see, my mother’s influence still lingers within me, her finger wagging in gentle reminder.

Asking, despite the fear it may elicit, holds immense power. It has enabled me to create opportunities, make a difference, and give my time to causes close to my heart. So, I encourage you, just as my mother encouraged me, to set aside your apprehensions and embrace the act of asking. You never know what doors may open, what lives you may impact, and what lessons you may learn along the way.

Hiya, I am Lauren, a lifestyle traveller, writer and health Nerd. Due to lockdown I decided to get on with writing my blog and catching up with friends new and old. I believe we are one world that for most of us wants to promote peace and goodwill to each other, wherever you are in the world I wish you well. I hope we connect and share our stories.

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