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Solo Living: Embracing the Delights of Freedom and Adventures

Life’s Unexpected Twists and Turns

My day had been long and exhausting, I parked at the school gate, eyeing the chatterbox of mums with zero interest in joining their symphony. As my kids hopped into the car, I casually dropped the pizza bomb: “How about the local shopping center for some pizza tonight?” “We can go now.” Decision made on a whim, throwing my original dinner plans out the window. It was just as easy as that.

Pizza or Partner? A Lightbulb Moment

Driving away, I realized the sweet liberty of changing my mind in a heartbeat. No need to call to explain tardiness or check if anyone’s okay with a dinner switch-up. It’s just me and the kids – a dynamic trio making choices on a whim.

Last night, I was cruising a dating site, still convincing myself that finding a partner was the quest. Suddenly, a lightbulb, brighter than Piccadilly Circus, flickered on. “Wait, what was I even doing?” Do I truly crave a partner to report to or come home to? Couples, hold your horses, don’t shout me down! I’ve been on the other side too.

Ladies do tend to check in. Ever heard: “Let me see what my husband wants to do”? The selfish rebel within me did a happy jig. Besides, I’m older now, self-sufficient, and my family’s flourishing. I relish all the wardrobe space and the entire bed to myself. But, oh, there’s a catch – there always is. Balancing happiness, that’s the ticket. I’ve designed a life I adore and it’ll take more than a charming knight on a white horse to breach my fortress.

Blame the Movies: A Delusional Love Affair

Oh, the tyranny of “Happy Ever After” tales and Disney dreams! Our world’s a tad delusional, isn’t it? Nothing’s wrong with love, yet there’s nothing amiss with choosing solitude either. Existing as a whole, unpaired entity has its perks. When you’re suddenly solo – maybe after losing a partner or a recent divorce – the impulse is to leap into another relationship. It’s the frying pan and fire scenario. Hold it, hold it. PLEASE. Pause, reset, and breathe. Relish the sweet joy of just being you.

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Photo by Dmitriy Ganin on Pexels.com Bride being carried over a rocky path.

Dating Dilemmas and Unimpressive Fish Navigating the Online Maze

I still venture on dates, but I’m not gazing too far over the friendship fence. I prefer getting to know someone, gauging our comfort levels, and allowing time for growth. A guy once quizzed me “but don’t you want to grow old with someone.” I fled that conversation faster than a squirrel on caffeine. No, I’m not gearing up to age peacefully with a companion. I’ve got too much on my agenda. I’m not dragging along someone with the energy of a sloth. Men posing with fish or half-naked with a beer, motorbike riders – instant left swipe. Am I choosy? Nah, it’s just those things don’t do it for me. Plus, any guy thinking boys’ toys are impressive might need a reality check.

Embracing Solo Adventures: Making Memories

Dining Solo: A Table for One

“Going solo isn’t fun,” they say. Sometimes, that’s true. When I crave company, I ring a friend – male or female – I’m a social animal. I have not fear of dining alone? Been there, and conquered that, I usually take a book. It doesn’t mean I won’t relish a dinner invitation. Being wanted, exclusively, feels amazing. Plus, dressing up for a date that offers stimulating conversation – oh, the thrill!

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Photo by Julia Creative on Pexels.com Woman dining alone.

Wanderlust Solo: The True Adventures Begin

My solo travels? Oh, the adventures are epic! Boarding a plane for Thailand or India, or just hopping back to my home country UK to meet up with friends, my heart pounding, vulnerability washing over me. I’m all by myself, but not for long. Fellow solo travelers soon became friends, inviting me to excursions and shared meals. Could this camaraderie have bloomed in a couple’s bubble? Maybe. But you need to put yourself out there. Be friendly, and chatty. And if sparks ignite, be ready! There are moments I cherish solitude, especially while writing. I hop between sociable and solitary, my choice.

The Solo Life: A World of Freedom and Exploration

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Photo by Patty k on Pexels.com

Single life, exciting and expansive, a gateway to adventures. Divorcees often mention newfound freedom. But please don’t rush to divorce your partner just yet. Stable relationships can be incredible. I’ve been there and done that too.

People are waking up. More souls embrace the solo journey, bidding adieu to the notion of incompleteness. In fact, solo female travel is one of the fastest-growing trends in the travel industry. You’re not a sad spinster; you’re a thriving individual. Remember, feeling lonely broadcasts loneliness. Love yourself, embrace life. Sometimes, solo is the only way to achieve what you desire. So, what’s your excuse? Adventures await!

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Hiya, I am Lauren, a lifestyle traveller, writer and health Nerd. Due to lockdown I decided to get on with writing my blog and catching up with friends new and old. I believe we are one world that for most of us wants to promote peace and goodwill to each other, wherever you are in the world I wish you well. I hope we connect and share our stories.

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